Hi friends, Long time no talk! I have been very busy the last few months with work, school and life in general!
I have also been busy with many thoughts in my head about whether I am truly happy with my life or if I am simply going with the flow of society and what I think is best for myself. I know that this isn't an uncommon thought and I am sure many of you have had the same types of thoughts once in a while. I am a generally happy person but I have recently been thinking of ways to make my life more fulfilling/enjoyable and I thought I would share.
For starters, I have thought a lot recently about how important it is to be grateful in your everyday life. I think most people tend to forget just how lucky they are for what they have, that others may only dream to have. My tip for you is to start out every day by either writing down or thinking of a few things that you are grateful for. I have found this to help my overall mood and to create the best outlook to start the day with. I will give an example of what I am grateful for today. I am grateful that it is a beautiful sunny day, I am grateful that I am in good health, and I am grateful for the roof over my head.
Another super important part of living your best life is to give yourself some time to do what makes YOU happy. A lot of times we may find ourselves rushing through life, bending over backwards to ensure everyone else is taken care of before ourselves. In the past few years I have realized how big of a damper it is on my overall mood when I do not take time to be alone with my own thoughts and to do something that makes me feel fulfilled. Whether it is taking yourself on a little outing to get coffee, playing your favorite music while you relax or even exercising, it is important to take time for yourself. Recently I started taking guitar lessons which has been a great way to involve myself in an activity that I genuinely enjoy and can do all alone. It is okay to say no to an activity with friends and spend time getting to know yourself and is in fact, very healthy for your mind and overall spirit.
In a totally opposite direction, another very fulfilling part of one's life is taking time to pay it forward. I am sure you have probably heard the term 'Pay it forward' before and recognize how important it is. Simple acts of kindness can truly brighten someone's day. You never know what someone is truly going through and probably don't think that something as small as smiling at them or holding the door for them, could help turn their day around. For instance, I work as a receptionist and I find it so refreshing when someone calls the office and takes time out of their day to ask how my day is going or how I am doing. Whether they genuinely care about my day or not doesn't really matter to me. It is the fact that they cared enough to ask a stranger how their day is going. Small things make a difference I can promise you that.
Lastly I want to remind you of something very important that many of us often forget.
You are the only one in charge of your life and YOU have the power to move it in a positive direction if you are willing to put in some hard work and keep going until you get where you want to be. I can relate to feeling sorry for yourself when you are down on your luck and wanting to blame circumstances or anyone other than yourself. I have to remind myself constantly that I am the only one capable of creating the life that I want to live. After you believe that, you can truly take the next step to work towards that final goal. Take some time to evaluate your life and if there is something that makes you unhappy CHANGE IT! It may take time or money or letting go of friendships or lots of hard work, but I promise, you are capable of more than you think you are.
Until next time, XOXO -Maddie.